Create a Life Plan to protect your relationship
In collaboration with the Charity
Solicitor and Mediator Nadia Beckett
Explains why you need to create a Living Together Agreement
Life Coach Joy Fahey explains how coaching can support the creation of a Living Together Agreement
I found out the hard way how few rights I had when my partner left after ten years, no marriage certificate, and three young children.
I didn’t know then about Living Together Agreements. I won’t make that mistake again! But there is a positive way to create this:
In the form of a Life Plan – exciting and positive and useful…..
With a few ‘what if’s’ thrown in.
‘What if'” we separate in the future?
“What If” one of us dies?
Both these situations are very different legally when you are not married.
A bit more about me:
My partner ended our 10 year relationship in 2003. Our three children were aged 6, 4 and 1 at the time, and it was the most painful and traumatic experience of my life. However, as the years passed, I soon became grateful that my ex had the courage to end a relationship that was not truly feeding either of us and we now have a healthy respect for each other.
It was tough getting to where I am now, and on the way I learned that accessing the right information, support and help both legally, financially and emotionally was essential. My ex partner is a supportive co-parent, living in the same village, sharing the same values and sometimes it amazes me how we got to be in such a good place despite some very difficult times getting here. It takes courage and vision and a determination to believe in a positive future when life seems nothing but a struggle, but the joy of children is that they provide a massive incentive to make that extra effort. It is not a journey anyone needs to make alone.
In 2010 I created the UK’s first ‘Divorce Fair’ which was called the Starting Over Show, and helped steer people towards mediation and away from adversarial breakup, as well as providing information and inspiration for people starting over from redundancy and bereavement, and other life changes.
There are skilled people who can help with all aspects of Starting Over who are there to be accessed via the Divorce in a Box and the Alternative Divorce Directory. Information and Inspiration are what helped me move forward in my life. I want to make those resources available to other people through Divorce in a Box – a Travel Guide for people navigating family breakup and wanting their broken family to transform into an extended family. People who also want to save money on legal fees, reduce the stress on their children, and stay out of court.
Using the knowledge I have gained from being the UK’s ‘Alternative Divorce Guide’, I am able to access a broad holistic support base for a more preventative way of dealing with family change.
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